This is my theory on falling in love and the steps it takes to get there.
Some people may believe in love at first sight, i think it takes more than that, it takes time, communication, and the ability to show someone how much you care for them even when it seems as though you don't get it back in return. From my past experience of falling in love, i believe this is how it happens.
First, when you see this person there is an attraction, whether it's their appearance, their attitude, or just how they present their self, something about that person must have caught your eye. Your eyes make contact, followed by a kiddish smile that lingers longer than usual, this is the first feeling you get, the feeling within your stomach tells you that your interested in taking this further than just being polite. The introduction takes place and the conversation begins, this should let you know if the two of you could possibly be compatible.
Secondly is getting to know one another. The first date, this is where you share information about who you are and what you are all about. You compare stories of past experiences, both good and bad, for example; cheating ex's, heartbreaks, success stories, marriages or divorces and so forth. We all know that nobody is perfect and everyone has a past. By the end of the first date, you should have gathered enough information about the other person to know if there will be a second date or not.
The third step is intimacy, if you have made it this far, there's obviously something you found that has kept your attention. Intimacy usually starts with a kiss, or even as simple as a touch, the rush of excitement throughout your body, and you feel as though you can't wait any longer until the next. You start spending your days together, then your nights, taking in as much time as you can with that person. It now seems as though you can't be apart for one moment. Just the mention of their name puts a smile on your face and butterflies in your stomach. At this point you are starting to fall in love, but your afraid to say it.
The last step is knowing its love. You start to make promises, hoping they will never be broken. When you gaze into their eyes, you can't believe this all started from that one glance. This is the point where you say “I love you”, hoping they will tell you the same thing. Now the hard part begins, keeping the love real. People today don't really know the meaning of “true love”, its not something you can just give up on, if it starts off good, it can end good, it just takes time, trust, and patience.
Love isn't the feeling you have in the beginning....its what you end up with in the end. Too many people mistaken lust for love. Love in my opinion is when you can trust your mate fully, with your heart, your secrets, and with separation. Love is a companionship, its a journey through life with a companion who will always be right beside you no matter what. When someone tells you they LOVE you....do you KNOW they do??
Everyone seems to think sex is a part of Love...well its not. Sex is a part of life, every living thing has some form of sex...or reproduction in other words....How can the word "love" have so many different meanings? when you tell your parents, children, best friends or grandparents you love them...is sexual feelings on your mind??? No..well I sure hope not......so why should it be a big part of relationships? If we were stripped from all of our physical appearances and all that was left was who we really are inside, would you love the one your with? some will say yes, and most will say no. I guess what I'm trying to say is, do you physically love your mate? or mental love them? we show affection to one another by touching, because we were taught that way. Look into your mates eyes and stare for a few moments without touching, no other part of them should matter at this moment, just their eyes....what do you feel inside?? is it love you feel? or do you feel uneasy? can you feel it inside... if they really love you ....or if you really love them?
Love is not man made....its the beat between 2 whole hearts.
We were taught, as kids, to pray for things the we want to see, have or what we want to turn out. So many prayers seem as though they go unanswered but God will only grant you what you see yourself worthy of. Imagination is a powerful thing. Everything we see that was built by man started in a mind first, a dream, or a desire. God is our father. If I wanted to give my child something they longed for and they turned their head in shame as though they were not worthy of it, it would break my heart. How would I know they really needed it if they didn’t ask for it or seen themselves worthy of having it? Turn to your father, ask for forgiveness, not just because you have done wrong but ask for forgiveness that you feel the shame inside, the regret, the missed opportunities that you gave up. Ask for forgiveness that you never had faith that God was leading you all long and you ignored the blessings because someone told you that you weren’t worthy. Know your worth and give thanks t...
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